How does mom maintain her sanity during the day with small demanding children?
Motherhood: The state of being a mother. Well, it’s not an easy state, it is hard work! Some days it feels like my sanity is compromised and I need to simply get through the day. Other days are exquisitely fun, so much fun that at bedtime you pray a few extra minutes over them, then go to bed and look through pictures of them on your phone. Then there are long days, days where nap time cannot come soon enough, bedtime is a bit earlier and you just need to decompress with a cup of tea or wine (I don’t judge, wine is one of my favorite things). You know that thing called self-care, we need to practice that more.
While I am out of the house for three days, the four days that I am home with my tiny humans, we do the most. What I’ve learned over the past few years is that children like to be busy. Have you ever heard the saying “idle hands are the devil’s playthings?” Well, it’s true. They get into so much trouble if they are left to wander around without any task at hand.
For the record, I am a routine Queen. I don’t survive in chaos, an organized life is where I flourish.
Here is a list of things to do daily to maintain sanity.
- We get dressed every morning. Most mornings before breakfast, we are in regular clothes. I find that it sets the pace for the day. If the kids see that they are dressed, they start asking to go to our usual places.
- We go to library classes, engage in some form of physical activity or playdates in the morning. In the summer, we love to go to the farm to see the animals and picnic, this is a favorite.
- Go outside EVERY SINGLE DAY. Yes, we do, even in freezing temperatures. We take a walk around the yard, accompanied by playing for approximately thirty minutes or so. They are never ready to come inside, some persuasion is usually required.
- I sit with them at every meal. While this may not mean much to many, instilling the principle of togetherness at mealtime is of importance to me. This also shows them that I need the same necessities as they do.
- Clean up the house as the day goes by. So, I dislike messes and clutter. I will throw everything in the trash. Some people are okay with kid’s toys all over their house, but this does not work for me. Tripping over toys is not something that I can tolerate. Quarterly, major downsizing of all the toys is necessary. However, my son has hoarder tendencies, and this gets very tricky.
- Reach out to at least one other mom friend per day, especially if it’s a really crappy day. We are all going through trying days, having someone to commiserate with is an absolute must.
- Maintain a consistent bedtime routine. I try my best to stick to the same routine every night, that way they know what to expect.
- I am grateful and reflective each day. Parenting is hard, but I am happy that I was given this opportunity. It’s not an opportunity given to everyone. I also reflect on my behavior throughout the day and how I could have reacted better to them. I am grateful for this Motherhood phase.
How do you maintain your sanity throughout the day?